INSTANT GRATIFICATION TRAP

                        INSTANT GRATIFICATION TRAP

What is Instant Gratification?

Instant gratification is the addiction to experience pleasure or fulfillment without delay, we all must have noticed the fact that we are hardwired to get anything we want instantly, or it is a term that refers to temptation and let go of future benefits in order to obtain the immediate benefit.

for example, if you have an urge for something pleasurable like food or watching a movie

we do not even give a second thought on the fact that we are wasting  2hours  of valuable our time by watching a movie.

The opposite side of instant gratification is delayed gratification or a conscious decision to put off satisfying your desire to get a better reward in the future.

Instant Gratification Theory By Famous Psychologist

The desire to get things instantly is known as pleasure principle according to Sigmund Freud,

Psychologist Shahram Heshmat explains why it is difficult to resist this urge.

1] It is uncomfortable to engage in self- denial because the more you fight it the stronger it becomes.

2]We don't believe others and our future and that uncertainty causes us to value immediate benefits.

3] The age factor the young generation is more impulsive than that of older people.

4] When you are taking conscious decision to avoid instant gratification, you are making a choice of selecting delayed gratification, which demands of you to envision your desired future if you let go of current desire.

5] Those who are born with higher intelligence have a tendency to see the benefits of delayed gratification.

6] Desperation for anything can make it very difficult to look past immediate benefit, If you do not have money it will be very alluring for you to steal it.

If you are a bachelor without a girlfriend you would do anything for a hook-up.

7] Mood can play a major role in this because we all have days of boredom and impatience all of which make immediate desire look more seductive.

Examples of Instant Gratification

Everyone pursued instant gratification all the time, Hence there are so many examples of instant gratification, Some examples of instant gratification that can be seen very commonly are-

1]The desire to select the snooze option instead of getting up early.

2]Temptation to go for a night out, instead of working on yourself

3] Temptation to fap after watching porn,

4]Tempation to eat in the middle of the night.

5]The temptation of buying an expensive phone to show off on the high-interest loan, Instead of 

waiting until you have saved enough money to buy it without taking a loan.

6] The urge to splurge all of your salary on your girlfriend.

We all must have seen at least two or more of these examples apply to all of us.

How to overcome the temptation of instant gratification

It is simply not an easy task to avoid instant gratification However there are some ways to 

However, there are some ways that really help in curbing it down.

                                 

• Be considerate about your future. Before choosing between instant and delayed gratification take moment and think about your future and ask a question will this going to add value to my life if the answer is no do not do it.
• Take responsibility for your life. This also means making a commitment to yourself, because once you will make commitment your mind will give up and will listen to your consciousness.
• Take one step at a time it will keep you away from getting intimidated. once you will accomplish a small task your mind will automatically create a loop.

When you take responsibility for your life by making a commitment to yourself, It will help you to face the temptation.

How do feel about this please let me know your opinion in the comment box down below........

      

Worlds crucial tool for peak performance

WORLD'S  CRUCIAL TOOL FOR PEAK PERFORMANCE

  photos by Marija javovic

In this, we will discuss self-management as a powerful tool to understand the emotional triggers, and ways to control them.

Proper self-management will affect every area of your life, If you are thinking about managing yourself that means you are self - aware and to move to self -management phase you need to take responsibility for your life.

Self- management is the strength of how you control the way you think, feel, and act.

photo by Recep-bg

Qualities that promote self-management

Emotional Self-Control

Emotional Self-Control is the ability to curb your impulses and wait until you have controlled your emotions.

Self-Discipline

It means consciously guide your behavior for the sake of self-improvement.

 Taking Action

Taking initiative toward being constantly inspired and motivated in order to achieve the goal,

Being Honest

Being honest and transparent as to where you are at present and where would you like to reach.

Being  Flexible and Adaptable

Being aware and Flexible for the changes that arise around you, If you learn to be Flexible that means you have learned to move with a Solution-oriented approach.

Being Positive

Every crisis is the opportunity in disguise, Always try to find something positive in any bad situation.

Self-Management Factors To Be Aware Of 

Emotion

The word means energy in motion the ancient scholars say that emotions motivate behavior,

but what I have observed is the combination of energy and motion motivates behavior.

whether consciously or unconsciously all our emotions have one of three motivations.

1. Approach

Increase the value of your attention to experience approach emotion that includes interest enjoyment, compassion, trust and love, Approach behavior are negotiating, encouraging, pleasing, cooperating, and protecting.

2. Avoid

Do not belittle the value of your attention, Avoid behaviors include ignoring, rejecting, dismissing.

3.Attack

Attack emotions like anger, hatred, contempt attack such emotions as these are manipulating and dominating.

4.Feelings

Feelings are similar to emotions. They keep on changing and subject to mood and sensation and psychological state.

Consistent Self-management requires to focus on core values, If you are faithful to your values it will eventually make you feel in control and empowered.

Controlling Negative Emotions

Self analyze yourself by writing down all that causes the impulsive reaction inside you, Notice things that make you angry, Think of ways you could change the way you would normally react by formulating a strategy to prevent losing self-control.

Plant new thoughts consciously whenever you feel emotions of anger soon this practice will become your habit.

Make Your Body Talk

I mean to say body language it is the most powerful yet subtle way of communicating your thoughts.

Learn To Manage Stress

We all know stress can cause depression and health problems, Few ways to manage stress.

1. Meditate

2.Do Anulom Vilom

3 Exercise Regularly

4 Eat nutritious food

5.Self Affirmation

6. Do not be too harsh on yourself

7. Learn to spend quality time with yourself

Learn To Set Goals

With the help of goal setting you can keep a track of your progress, It gives you a clear picture as to where you are going,

Main elements of goal setting

1] Be Specific

Goals should be clear and well defined.

2] The Level of Difficulty

Goals with little difficulty will not help in increasing your ability, challenge yourself with realistic goals.

3] Start with small-term goals

Do not fall into the trap of long term goals at the beginning. Start with baby steps set goals that can be achieved in a month or two, These baby steps will mold you to set bigger and long term goals and achieve them.

Before starting on this journey of goal setting, It is recommended to watch the video down below

by brilliant Akash lohat on how to achieve goals.

How to Use the power of visualization

      How to Use the power of visualization

The power of visualization work together with the Law of Attraction. The idea is to visualize. The idea is to imagine something that you want to get and create a mental picture of that image and it will be attracted to you.

We already do this unknowingly,  whenever you focus on something that might go wrong, things will go wrong. and our mind creates a pattern to focus on a similar situation like that because it has happened in the past.

It is just like working out in the gym, we all must have witnessed how difficult it becomes to lift a 10lbs [5kg] Dumbell on the first day, but after a couple of days, the same weight becomes very light for us.

Because our mind creates the pattern over and over saying I have been lifting this 10lbs Dumbell for a week now it's no longer heavy for me, It all boils down to our mindset.

  

    THE POWER OF VISUALIZATION

What makes visualization effective?

How possibly can visualization make your dream come true?

You must have heard people saying  I can't imagine losing 100pounds or I can't speak on stage in front of 100 people, This sect will never be able to achieve these things because they are not competent enough of imagining themselves achieving them.

Gautam Buddh said you become what you think, There are at present countless doctrines and scriptures across all the religion which are against of each-other on many standpoints, but they all agree on this one particular standpoint" You become what you think"

Every invention that ever took place was first conceived in someone's mind as an idea in response to fulfilling some want or desire, They began focusing all of their energies on that idea and soon it got mixed with their emotions and this infusion of emotion and desire created an untamable force and the person's mind became desperate to find ways to make their thought a physical reality.

Ideas of how, when, what came into existence because of initial visualization, and this bombarded...

until the first flight took place by wright brothers, and the Ac [Alternating current] came into existence.


Every time you take part in any activity or do something your mind is creating the image and storing that in your mind because what you see or do is mixed with sensory experiences like touch, smell, and visualization,

We are prone to visualization especially when we worry and expect something worst to happen, we take that image and reinforce that to become a reality and often that happens, That means we manifest worst-case scenario in our lives.

Our mind is very powerful the more you try to resist a particular thought the stronger it becomes and the only way to conquer your mind is to stop fighting it,

Whenever a bad thought comes into your mind just stay calm tell your mind.  let me see how long this bad thought stays in my mind, try that and you will find the thought is disappeared.

Every single action your body takes is first generated in your mind like walking, waving at someone, doing pushups Before you do any activity there is a split second image created in your mind -It could be conscious or unconscious,

This principle works in the same way with the things you attract in your life.

Famous Athletes do this every time they create a mental picture in which they see themselves perfectly executing the plan they made to win any game and you can do it too by following few techniques.

  1. BE EXCITED ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT

You won't get effective results unless you are excited about what you want, your emotions are the powerful driving force behind your visualization. Therefore choose your passion and not be too attached to the outcome but use it to focus on your work and you might end up getting something bigger than your expecting to get.

2.  Hold your image for 35 sec

     To attract a powerful manifestation hold your image at least for 35 to 45 seconds to enhance this 

      start meditation.

3. Create A Detailed Picture

  Through your picture make it very clear to your mind as what you want in a detailed manner.

4. Believe IN Your Dreams

   There are two ways to believe now first become kids in your imagination kids believe everything like the story fairies and ghosts.

This method is useful when your dream is too big and seeing your present condition you can never achieve that goal and people end up putting too much pressure on themselves because their subconscious mind does not accept what is beyond human reach in the material world.

But this can be tackled with regular conscious efforts soon your mind would accept that because you are creating a pattern on a regular basis.

The second way is to start writing gratification affirmation and in no time your mind would start believing without rejecting.

5.BELIEVE YOUR MIND IS VERY POWERFUL

The essence of everything is believing  that your subconscious mind is extremely powerful

and it is a medium between you and infinite intelligence.

What you guys think about this content was it helpful please let me know so that I could improve my content and create value in your life.

WHAT IS THE RELATION BETWEEN DESTINY AND SUBCONCIOUS MIND ACCORDING TO HOLY SCRIPTURES

WHAT IS THE RELATION BETWEEN DESTINY AND SUBCONSCIOUS MIND  ACCORDING TO HOLY SCRIPTURES

We all are aware and talk about destiny on many occasions,  According to Indian mythology Chitragupta" keep the records of our karma,

But who is Chitragupta? Is it another name of God? or does it refer to a superhuman or an Alien.

The year's human being inhabiting this earth itself is several billion years if we take into account other creatures like animals and non-human species, the total number would be beyond mathematical and scientific calculation.

Science has now established that all mental, verbal and physical activities carried out by an individual having a proper mind leave subtle footprints on the deeper level of the psyche.

In this way like the visual recordings of scenarios on a microchip of the computer, all good and evil deeds are being recorded in the hidden chambers of the mind.

The scriptures also say that the supreme creator[ lord brahma] inscribes the destiny on the forehead of a living creature and this divine inscription cannot be erased by anyone.

let us check this concept scientifically, and logically functional MRI shows countless furrows in the grey matter all over the brain.

Medical science has not been able to understand biological indentations.

The record of events [good or bad] on the neuronal memory chips proves the existence of an adapt, intelligent mechanism.

Which Hindu Mythology refers to as Chitragupta means a hidden picture, this refers to our inner mind, the unconscious mind or Chitta, This is the reason we call it to be equal to god as well.

And this Chitragupta affects our destiny on every turn of our life, As science tells us once we program anything in our mind it takes on a power of its own.

Let us tap into our subconscious mind working pattern

The very act of writing goal programs into your subconscious mind, The minute you put anything in writing your Chitta[subconcious mind] starts working on that 24/7.

Your Chitta make you aware of the opportunities and possibilities around, It sends the signal to right people who can assist you to become successful,

As per the research man utilize merely 10 percent his mental capacity,  whereas once your subconscious takes over you start using the remaining 90%  of your brain.

Your subconscious mind is like clay you can shape it the way you want, Your subconscious does not rebel rather it obeys whatever you command, you just have to learn to discipline it.

Ways to discipline your Chitta the first is to put all your goals in writing, without passing on judgment on what you write,

secondly visualize and see yourself conquering all of your weaknesses, visualize yourself taking action for that goal rest everything will fall in place.

What you guys think about this relationship between destiny and Chitta let me know in the comment below,,,,,

We all are aware and talk about destiny on many occasions, According to Indian mythology Chitragupta" keep the records of our karma,

HOW TO BUILD SELF CONFIDENCE 8 PRACTICAL TIPS

   HOW TO BUILD SELF CONFIDENCE 8 PRACTICAL TIPS

 Once Zig Ziglar said do not look down on yourself, because once you think you are not worthy of anything, that gives birth to negative thoughts that result in your action.

That means we are responsible for our confidence, during my childhood, I was very much into reading the Bible, Which would have been a good thing if I had not been completely dependent on God for everything.

That means I was running away from taking the responsibility of my life, Ultimately what we believe on inside is something we project outside.

BE RELIGIOUS BUT NOT DEPENDENT ON GOD,

The importance of self-confidence and why it is important.

An opinion poll conducted by MEN'S HEALTH MAGAZINE[1000 women rated traits related to personality and character higher than physical attractiveness] Physical attractiveness didn't even make the top 10!

                    Ways to build self-confidence

We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think buddha

1]  BE grateful for your uniqueness - you are born with a unique identity, you have a different perspective and unique looks, no one can have the same fingerprints as you do.

2]Give 100% effort - whenever you put in your best effort and put forth what you have got it always gives you satisfaction beyond measure irrespective of the outcome.

3] Perseverance with baby steps- perseverance is the unique gift given to men by God, Everyone has their share of failure don't let them stop you, work on your failure by taking baby steps,

4] OVERCOME ADVERSITY -  Overcoming adversity builds self-worth, Jose Feliciano created history after overcoming his blindness to become the world's greatest guitarist.

5] Be an achiever -  Set small goals and achieve them, our mind takes great joy in achieving what we fix in it, it will make you unstoppable.

6] Don't believe lies-  whenever you fail in something shrug that off your shoulder as soon as possible, see yourself as getting one step closer to your goals, use a sentence like I like myself,

iam a genius.

7] Face your fears - This is the crux of everything, you lack confidence because you fear getting rejected fear of people will make fun of you, keep a simple mantra face everything you fear deliberately, you can't even imagine who you would discover.

8] Groom yourself-  Take good care of yourself by keeping yourself fit physically and mentally and make a point of becoming the best version of yourself.

9] A good motivating talk-  whenever you feel down about yourself, remember your past achievements and remind yourself what you are made of.

What is the relation between self-image and confidence?

You might have heard people saying without confidence you cannot achieve anything in life, but your self-image gives rise to confidence and your confidence give rise to the belief.

Why do you see a huge disparity between the belief system of achievers or successful people, and unsuccessful people?

Because their self-image about themselves is great, without having a good self-image you cannot have self-confidence and without that, you cannot perform at your best and success doesn't come with half-hearted efforts.

Do not make a mistake between self-image and self-confidence, one-liner explanation for this would be self-image means how you fell about yourself overall and self-confidence means how you feel about your abilities.

https://selfimprovementdog.blogspot.com/2020/04/self-image-raised-standard-of.html

THE FIRST MAN WHO RAISED THE STANDARD OF SALESMANSHIP AND MADE IT A MILLION-DOLLAR INDUSTRY

 THE FIRST MAN WHO  RAISED THE STANDARD OF SALESMANSHIP AND MADE IT A MILLION-DOLLAR INDUSTRY

Zig-Ziglar was born in Mississippi in 1926, Ziglar was involved in the establishment of  American sales master in 1963.

Ziglar's objective was to raise the self-image of salespeople in America, by providing seminars,

Ziglar went to speak for[ National Association of sales education]

In addition to speaking Ziglar also wrote over 30 books, his first book see you at the top was rejected

39 times before it was published in 1975.

Tragedy in 2007

Ziglar slipped his leg while climbing down from the stairs, which resulted in short term memory.

Personal life

Ziglar met jean his wife in Mississippi and they gave birth to four children Suzan, Tom, Cindy,  Julie, Ziglar died of pneumonia in 2012.

GREATEST BLIND GUITARIST OF ALL TIMES!

Jose Feliciano was born devastated and blind in Puerto Rico, He was told by his neighbors to beg like beggars in the streets, but Jose refused! instead, he taught himself how to play the guitar.

He practiced day and night sometimes until his fingers bled. He wrote a Christmas song called  Feliz Navidad.

He first received widespread popularity in 1960 after the release of his song Feliciano! His passion for music made him practice for 14 hours a day in a single room.

As a teenager, Feliciano took classical lessons from Harold Morris at the lighthouse school for the blind in new york.

At the tender age of 17 Jose left high school to support  his family and started performing at coffee shops of Greenwich,

He was  first discovered by jack Somer and released his first single "EVERYBODY DO THE CLICK"

Now these people conveyed a subtle message to all of us saying you are not limited by your weakness it all about believing and taking actions in right directions,,,,

What you guys think?

Regardless of what situation you are in, work hard for your dreams, let me know in the comment below.

Also check-

https://selfimprovementdog.blogspot.com/2020/04/origin-of-self-improvement.html

https://selfimprovementdog.blogspot.com/2020/04/how-to-build-self-confidence-8.html

 

Origin of self improvement

    Origin of self-improvement& why it is important

We all have heard the term self-improvement in some way or the other, iam sure most of you would want to know as to why self-improvement is important in life.

The word self-improvement is derived in two parts self means you and improvement is the process of becoming better.

The first person who ever brought this term to life is Mr. Earl Nightingale in the 1960s, He is known as the dean of the personality development industry.

  What is self-improvement?

Self-improvement means to keep on learning and make the quality of your life better or let me put it this way reaching the point of satisfaction in your life.

  What are the areas of self-improvement?

 There are six key areas of self-improvement which are listed down below

1] Relationship

    

   In Relationship the most important thing is, to be honest, and be yourself, do not think of changing yourself for another person and combine this with the factor of fully accepting another person.

2] SELF-ESTEEM 

 Self-esteem is an evaluation of an individual of their own worth, for example, if a person is good at something he is bound to feel confident and best about himself because he gets attention and respect from others,

3] Spirit 

   The word spirit means spiritual growth or the practice of evolving your consciousness by practicing meditation and feel the blissfulness within.

4] Career 

    The aspect of the career is interrelated with the word improvement means everyone wants to do good in their respective careers but that is only possible by keeping on reinventing yourself and acquire new skills...

4] Creativity

     Creativity here is meant to be the process of  developing creative abilities through exploration

  and enhancing your skills,

5] Health

  Now health is the most important aspect of all but still not the goal of life but irrespective of you have a good career and tons of money but you are bedridden what's the use of good career and money when you cant enjoy that.

let's discuss about the areas in detail

Relationship = As we discussed about this, in this aspect it is important to be truthful, A close friend of mine came to me who was dating a girl back then, and his girl had UTI [urinary tract infection]
because of which whenever they involved in intercourse his girlfriend used to have uneasiness while peeing and the funny smell which together used to cause her pain and because of that she would never involve in sex with the guy.

But as we all know a healthy relationship cannot last without a healthy sex life, now this guy was crazy for sex and was unable to get it for a long time, which resulted in the breakup.

In this scenario, the boy should have been honest with the girl and told her that without a healthy sex life, you cant have a long-lasting relation.

Perhaps after this conversation, the girl would have thought of giving it a try under the consultation of a specialist but that did not happen.



Self-esteem                Over the past decades I have been analyzing  how much important this factor is,
having self -esteem in your work makes you stand above the competition.

First, we will try to understand in depth what is self-esteem?

The best definition that I have found is having confidence in your abilities and trust me you cant have confidence until you get some incentive for what you do or you can only develop it with the help of auto-suggestion.

This trick can work wonders for everyone  who applies it, for example, let's take a sale representative,
As the recent studies show after conducting one on one with top salesmen around the globe,

The only thing that stands them apart with an edge, was their self-esteem, They all used the trick of autosuggestion that I love myself, iam best at what I do, iam genius, your self-esteem, and career go hand in hand.


Creativity 
Being creative means breaking your patterns and facing your  fears by believing in your abilities,
or the correct way to put this is making the most boring work into something interesting.

example to understand creativity is when you are trying to avoid a traffic jam on your way to an appointment by taking an alternate road, side streets, and alleys.


Health
There are two areas of  health, First is the mental health and physical health and the trio good career, physical health and mental health are correlated,

Mental health really affects how we think, act and speak you can see this playing a part in how you cope with your life's problem and productivity at work, these are just some of the benefits of having good mental health will discuss about it later.

Physical health
As we all know that physical activity reduces our chance of getting sick, but it also saves us from cardiovascular diseases and releases dopamine and oxytocin as these hormones are important to reduce stress.

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WHAT IS THE RELATION BETWEEN DESTINY AND SUBCONSCIOUS MIND  ACCORDING TO HOLY SCRIPTURES

We all are aware and talk about destiny on many occasions,  According to Indian mythology Chitragupta" keep the records of our karma,

But who is Chitragupta? Is it another name of God? or does it refer to a superhuman or an Alien.

The year's human being inhabiting this earth itself is several billion years if we take into account other creatures like animals and non-human species, the total number would be beyond mathematical and scientific calculation.

Science has now established that all mental, verbal and physical activities carried out by an individual having a proper mind leave subtle footprints on the deeper level of the psyche.

In this way like the visual recordings of scenarios on a microchip of the computer, all good and evil deeds are being recorded in the hidden chambers of the mind.

The scriptures also say that the supreme creator[ lord brahma] inscribes the destiny on the forehead of a living creature and this divine inscription cannot be erased by anyone.

let us check this concept scientifically, and logically functional MRI shows countless furrows in the grey matter all over the brain.

Medical science has not been able to understand biological indentations.

The record of events [good or bad] on the neuronal memory chips proves the existence of an adapt, intelligent mechanism.

Which Hindu Mythology refers to as Chitragupta means a hidden picture, this refers to our inner mind, the unconscious mind or Chitta, This is the reason we call it to be equal to god as well.

And this Chitragupta affects our destiny on every turn of our life, As science tells us once we program anything in our mind it takes on a power of its own.

Let us tap into our subconscious mind working pattern

The very act of writing goal programs into your subconscious mind, The minute you put anything in writing your Chitta[subconcious mind] starts working on that 24/7.

Your Chitta make you aware of the opportunities and possibilities around, It sends the signal to right people who can assist you to become successful,

As per the research man utilize merely 10 percent his mental capacity,  whereas once your subconscious takes over you start using the remaining 90%  of your brain.

Your subconscious mind is like clay you can shape it the way you want, Your subconscious does not rebel rather it obeys whatever you command, you just have to learn to discipline it.

Ways to discipline your Chitta the first is to put all your goals in writing, without passing on judgment on what you write,

secondly visualize and see yourself conquering all of your weaknesses, visualize yourself taking action for that goal rest everything will fall in place.

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